A common concern women have about vibrating sex toys is they will become desensitized from its vibrations or eventually require a vibrator to reach orgasm after using one over a period of continued use. We’ll share our personal experience and research about vibrator addiction from experts and answer common questions below.
Will I get addicted to my vibrator?
According to sex therapist Dr. Ian Kerner, author of She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman, there’s no such thing as vibrator addiction. But, a woman can become dependent on a vibrator just like she can become dependant on a particular sex position, cunnilingus, or manual stimulation to come.
It’s almost always easier for a woman to get off using a vibrator. These days women are often preoccupied with a lot of stuff in their minds and find it challenging to shut it off and relax long enough to take time to enjoy the sensations that build up to orgasm. Using a vibrator is just easier sometimes.
Variety is important. Vibrators can be a reliable, fast track to orgasm and serve a great purpose when you’re tired, don’t have much time, or just want to spice things up. Mix vibrator use with sex positions or techniques that make you come to keep from getting lazy and always reaching for the vibrator.
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Will a vibrator desensitize me?
Extended vibration, especially from high-frequency, buzzy vibrators, can leave you feeling numb in the area for a short time after use, just like vigorous manual stimulation can. The numbness isn’t permanent and usually subsides within a few minutes to a few hours.
Nerves in the clitoris can be overstimulated, and if you overdo the stimulation, they might shut down and stop reacting. This, too, is temporary and usually goes away within a few minutes of not using a sex toy.
What if I need a vibrator to orgasm?
That’s fine. Some women can only have an orgasm from vibrator stimulation. The inability to orgasm unless a vibrator is used could be caused by hormone levels, medication, or other conditions and circumstances. If you’ve tried everything you can to orgasm and a vibrator is the only thing that works, use a vibrator.
We’ve heard from ladies that went as long as 30 years without having an orgasm until they finally tried a vibrator. All the women wished they would have started using them much earlier in their marriages.
I hope this information clears up confusion about vibrators being addicting or desensitizing. Like everything else in life, vibrators are okay if used in moderation. Also, just like personal lubricant, if a vibrator is what you need to enjoy sex fully with your spouse, use it. It’s a marital aid, just like lube.