Ready to spice things up and turn up the heat in the bedroom? Whether you’re a newbie to sex toys or already have a drawer full of them, this guide is packed with 68 playful, practical, and passion-boosting tips to help you and your spouse bring more excitement, connection, fun, and orgasms to the bedroom. From foreplay to steamy mid-action enhancements, these suggestions are designed to spark curiosity, deepen intimacy, and help you explore new ways to enjoy sex with your spouse.
This list is enormous, so we broke it up into foreplay and intercourse with sections for her, him, and both under each. Use the jumplist below and click the link to navigate to your desired destination.
Foreplay Just Got an Upgrade: Sex Toy Tips for Couples
Foreplay sets the tone for everything that follows, and when you add sex toys into the mix, things can go from routine to electrifying in no time! Whether you’re looking to break out of a bedroom rut or just want to discover new ways to tease, please, and connect, this list is your ultimate guide to spicing up foreplay!
For Her
Vibrator against her clitoris during foreplay: The wife or her husband can press a vibrator against her clitoris during foreplay. This is a great way to rev up her pleasure engine quickly and maybe give her an orgasm before penetrative sex. Bullet and G-spot vibrators are good options.
Use a vibrator externally while giving her oral: Combine cunnilingus with stimulation from a vibrator on her sensitive spots, such as her inner thighs, nipples, or around her vulva. A small vibrator works best.
Add G-spot stimulation to cunnilingus: Use a G-spot vibrator to stimulate your wife internally while licking her clitoris during foreplay. If your wife takes a long time to come during oral, this trick will speed things up big time! Prop her butt up using a firm folded pillow or, better yet, a wedge sex pillow for easier access.
Dual vibrators for double the pleasure: For an adventurous twist, use a G-spot vibrator to stimulate your wife’s G-spot and press another vibrator against her clitoris. The intense combination of being filled and stimulated from within and external clitoral stimulation can lead to very powerful orgasms.
Tracing a vibrator around her vulva: Before any insertion, use a vibrator to tease around her vulva. Run it along her outer labia, circle near, but not directly over her clitoris, and glide it around the entrance of her vagina. Once she’s very aroused, insert just the tip of the vibrator into her vagina, and then remove it until she’s begging you for more. This slow-build technique builds lots of sexual tension and will make eventual penetration much more passionate for both of you.
G-spot vibrator exploration: Use a curved G-spot vibrator to find and stimulate her G-spot. Slowly insert a well-lubed vibrator into her vagina and angle the tip towards her upper vaginal wall. Experiment with different amounts of pressure and movements until you find what works best. She can put her hand on yours to help hit the spot just right.
Rabbit vibrator during foreplay: A rabbit vibrator’s simultaneous internal G-spot stimulation and external clitoral stimulation can be a thrilling couple’s foreplay option. Slide the shaft into her vagina and watch her melt into orgasmic bliss as it stimulates her clitoris and G-spot.
Use a dildo on her: Take a lubricated dildo and slowly slide it into her vagina. Experiment with pumping it in and out at different speeds while angling it to apply pressure to her G-spot. This gives her the pleasure of experiencing penetration twice, which increases her pleasure.
Enhance cunnilingus with a dildo: Insert a girthy dildo into your wife’s vagina while giving her cunnilingus. Pump it in and out while you’re licking her clitoris, but hold it steady and fully inserted as she orgasms. The sensation of being filled during an orgasm from oral feels incredible!
She uses a dildo while he watches: As a form of interactive foreplay, the woman uses a dildo on herself while the husband watches and possibly learns a thing or two about what she likes. To make it more sensual, the wife lies on her back, and her husband lies on his side, facing her with his lower arm under her pillow. He can use his free hand to touch her breasts or even stimulate her clitoris while she uses the dildo.
Riding a suction-cup dildo for a show: If your dildo has a suction-cup base, stick it to a flat surface, such as a chair or the edge of the bathtub, and ride it while your husband watches. The wife can position herself to give her husband head or a handjob while riding her dildo.
Temperature play with a dildo: Take a glass or metal dildo and experiment with temperature for a fun and unique foreplay experience. You can chill the dildo or warm it in cold or warm water. The husband might run a cooled dildo over her nipples or inner thighs before slowly penetrating her with gasp-inducing pleasure.
Clitoral suction toys during foreplay: Cup her clitoris with the mouth of an air-pulse stimulator and stimulate your wife’s clitoris with intense oral-like stimulation. At the same time, you kiss her lips, neck, or breasts. This type of intense stimulation will typically quickly bring her to orgasm.
Alternate oral and a suction toy: When your tongue starts getting tired from a marathon of cunnilingus, quickly finish things off and make her come by tapping out and switching to a pleasure air marital aid.
“Oral” stimulation for her nipples: Lick and suck on your wife’s nipples with your mouth, and then use a clitoral suction sexual aid to stimulate her with intense pressure pulses and gentle suction. Nipple stimulation during foreplay is a gateway to easier and more satisfying orgasms later in the session.
(Secret Foreplay) Remote-control vibrator in public: Spice things up outside the bedroom by using a remote-controlled panty vibrator during a date night or outing. The wife wears the vibrator, and her husband has the remote. This sexy secret creates intense anticipation that’ll get released as an explosive orgasm or two later in the night.
Remote-controlled toy as a home teasing game: Wear a remote control vibrator such as a panty vibrator, vibrating egg internally, or a vibrating penis ring while watching a movie or cooking with your spouse. Spontaneous surprises are a huge turn-on.
Textured penis sleeve for foreplay: The husband places a girth enhancer over his erect penis and rubs it back and forth over his wife’s well-lubed vulva during foreplay. When she can’t take it anymore and is begging to be penetrated, the husband enters her with the girth enhancer on so she can enjoy thicker, textured penetration.
Hands-free toy while focusing on husband: The wife can wear a panty vibrator or insert an egg vibrator while giving her man a BJ or handjob. This way, she remains turned on and maybe has an orgasm or two while she’s stimulating him.
Sensual bath with a suction toy: Take foreplay into the bathtub for a slow, romantic buildup. Use a waterproof clitoral suction toy underwater for a unique, blissful oral-like sensation.
Edge her with a vibrator: Use her favorite vibrator to stimulate her clitoris almost to the point of orgasm, and then pull the vibrator away and place a few fingers against her clitoris until things cool down a bit. Repeat this a few times and, without her knowing, allow the orgasm to happen the last time.
Exploring different vibration patterns: Most modern vibrators offer various vibration patterns and speeds. Instead of sticking to the one or two that generally get the job done, take time to feel the other vibration modes. Feel each pattern for 30 seconds to a minute and see if you like any others.
Foreplay with Kegel balls: The wife can use Ben Wa Balls (Kegel balls) as a discreet turn-on leading to sex. She can wear them while getting ready for date night or cooking. The gentle moving sensations inside her will keep her gently aroused and simmering for an exciting night with her husband.
Her vibrator during his oral pleasure: To make giving him a blowjob more exciting for both, the wife can press her favorite sexual aid against her clitoris with one hand while giving her man a BJ or handjob during foreplay.
Personalized partner toy (clone fun): A fun foreplay activity that both of you will enjoy is creating a vibrating clone of your husband’s penis with the Clone-A-Willy kit. Once you’re done, use the cloned dildo of your husband’s penis during future foreplay activities.
For Him
Vibrator on his sensitive spots: A vibrator can feel great for your husband, too! Press a small vibrator against his testicles or run it up and down the underside of his erect penis and pause on the area when the head of his penis meets the shaft. That’s a sensitive spot. If the vibrator has powerful, rumbly vibration, press it against his perineum (the skin between his testicles and anus).
Using a vibrator during oral sex on him: Enhance a blowjob by pressing a vibrator against the underside of his penis while you’re sucking the head. A favorite is gently pressing a vibrator against his balls while giving him head during foreplay.
Textured sleeve handjob for him: Use a generously lubed stroker to give your husband a handjob during foreplay. Have him lie on his back, close his eyes, and enjoy the ride while you use up and down and twisting motions to stimulate him. Don’t go too fast, and make sure he does not come so y’all can finish with intercourse!
Hold a sleeve while he thrusts into it: Have your husband get on all fours and then slip a well-lubed stroker onto his penis and hold it while he thrusts in it while not getting overstimulated to the point of no return.
Vibrating ring during fellatio: Slip a vibrating ring onto your man’s erect penis with the vibrator turned down near his testicles. Cup his testicles and bring them up against the vibrator while you’re giving him a blowie during foreplay.
Edging him with a stroker: Communication is essential for this one! Use a lubed stroker to slide up and down his penis and stimulate him. When he gets the first inkling of an orgasm brewing, use a signal such as a word or tap to signal you to stop. Once the feeling subsides, repeat. After a few edgings, transition to intercourse so he can fill you up!
Handjob + blowjob combo with a stroker: Begin by giving your man head. Once his penis is wet, slip on a small sleeve and slide the sleeve up and down his penis as your mouth takes him in and out.
For Both
Vibrator teasing on nipples and body: Use a vibrating bullet or mini wand massager to stimulate each other’s exterior erogenous zones. Trace it around their nipples, inner thighs, neck, and even their chest, but not their genitals. Save that for oral or sex.
Full-body sensual massages with a happy ending for the Mrs.: Begin by massaging your husband. I know, ladies, first, but you’ll thank me later! Use the body massager on his muscles to help him relax. Next, the husband switches spots and gives his wife a sensual massage using the massager on her muscles. Once she’s relaxed, run the massager over her inner thighs, around her vulva, and eventually back and forth over her clitoris until she comes.
Vibrator play during 69: When both partners are giving each other oral sex in the 69 position, the husband can use a G-spot vibrator or dildo to stimulate her internally, and she can use a bullet vibrator to stimulate his testicles.
Grinding with a vibrator between you: Couples can spice up dry-humping by placing a small vibrator between them. For example, put a bullet vibrator over your vulva while straddling your husband’s thigh and grinding against it, or place a vibrating ring on your husband’s penis while he lies on his back and you rub your vulva up and down the underside of his penis.
Quick vibe teaser while making out: Keep a small vibrator handy during a heavy kissing session. At an unexpected moment, turn the vibrator on and rub it against your spouse’s body. For example, rub the vibrator lightly over your wife’s breasts or rub it slowly over the bulge of your husband’s pants.
Mutual vibrator play: Both spouses use a vibrator on each other at the same time. For instance, while she rubs a vibrator up and down the underside of his penis or circles it on his balls, he uses his vibrator to circle her nipples or stimulate her clit.
Hot and steamy shower toy time: Many vibrators are waterproof, opening up steamy possibilities in the shower or bath. Bring a waterproof vibrator and suction-cup dildo if you have one into the shower together and see what happens. She can ride the dildo while giving him a BJ, or he can stimulate her G-spot with a vibrator while giving her cunnilingus.
Sensate focus with a small vibrator: Couples can enhance a sensate focus exercise (where you explore each other’s bodies without goal-oriented sex) by including a vibrator. Have your spouse lie down naked and close their eyes. Slowly rub the vibrator over their body while avoiding their genitals. For example, trace it over their spine, circle over their shoulder blades, along their sides, and across their ribs. The receiver relaxes and feels the sensations. This helps the receiver connect with their body and enjoy sex more.
Erotic game with multiple toys: Turn sex toy play into a fun guessing game. One spouse lies down with a blindfold over their eyes. The other uses a marital aid on them, and the receiver tries to guess which toy he’s using. If the receiver guesses right, they swap spots and continue with the erotic game.
Swapping control mid-play: A fun way to spice up foreplay with toys is to swap control during the session. For example, let’s say the husband is stimulating his wife’s clitoris with a G-spot vibrator. She’ll take the vibrator from him and begin stimulating her clitoris and maybe transition to internal G-spot stimulation.
Very erotic lap dance: The wife goes all out and begins giving her husband a lap dance while wearing sexy lingerie. She slowly takes it off, one piece at a time, until she’s in her birthday suit. Next, she grabs a vibrator and starts stimulating herself while he watches until they move on to intercourse.
Voyeuristic toy play: For couples who enjoy a bit of exhibitionism, one spouse can put on a “performance” using a toy while the other spouse watches, then switch roles.
Use a toy to practice communication and learn what works and what doesn’t: Sex toys can actually be great tools for learning about each other’s bodies. A neat “exercise” is to take turns explicitly communicating likes and dislikes while their spouse uses a toy on them. For example, she might lie down and let him use a vibrator on her. As he does, she verbalizes what she feels: “Softer circles… oh, that’s good… a little higher… perfect… right there!”
Morning wake-up surprise: Rather than a blaring alarm, wake your spouse up with gentle external stimulation from a vibrator.
Using a toy during transition: Keep the moment going by using a toy on yourself during the in-between moments (like a quick cleanup or switching positions).
Non-bedroom adventures with toys: Changing the setting can refresh your sexual play and sense of adventure. Try using your favorite sex toy, or better yet, a sex toy you haven’t used in a while outside of the bedroom. For example, put a blanket down on the living room floor or the sofa and use the toy together there. Or, have a quickie in the kitchen while your wife is bent over the counter and stimulating her clitoris with a bullet vibrator while you take her from behind. It’ll feel different from the bedroom and exciting!
Sexy games with toy incentives: If you enjoy board or card games, play them with your spouse naked. When you win a hand or game, collect your reward of, let’s say, one minute of your husband stimulating your clitoris with a wand massager.
Tease without touching the hot spots: A wonderful way to use a vibrator to build anticipation is to tease everywhere except the genitals. Once both of you can’t take it anymore, transition to other foreplay activities such as cunnilingus, fellatio, or intercourse.
Guided toy exploration: One spouse can “coach” the other through self-pleasure while the other spouse watches and learns. For example, the husband sits and watches his wife use a vibrator on herself. As she uses it, she explains in detail what she’s feeling and why it feels good. The husband takes mental notes so he can “service” her better in future sessions.
Add sensory layers to toy play: Engage multiple senses to amplify the experience. For instance, the woman uses taste by applying flavored lube on a dildo or vibrator so he gets a tasty treat when he goes down on her. Put a drop of scream cream on the tip of a vibrator before stimulating her to add a sexy surprise.
Level Up Lovemaking: Sex Toy Tips to Use During Sex
Intercourse can be so much more than just the main event. It can be an adventure in connection, creativity, and pleasure. With the right marital aids, couples can explore new sensations, deepen intimacy, and bring a fresh spark to every passionate moment. This list of ways to enhance sex with sex toys is designed to inspire experimentation, elevate your shared experience, and make each encounter feel exciting and new!
For Her
Vibrator on her clitoris during sex: While having sex, press a small vibrator against her clitoris for extra stimulation. For example, during Missionary or Doggy Style, she holds a vibrator against her clit, letting its vibrations enhance her pleasure as her husband thrusts. Bullet vibrators work well, or wand vibrators pretty much guarantee you’ll orgasm with your husband during intercourse.
Vibe while she’s on top: The wife can press a vibrator against her clitoris while she’s riding her husband in the Cowgirl sex position. The beauty of this position is that she’s in complete control of all of the stimulation. Many women can have multiples using this technique.
Vibrator while spooning: The slow and sensual spooning sex position allows her to press a small vibrator against her clitoris and come while being penetrated from behind by her husband.
Vibrator after intercourse for her climax: If the husband climaxes during sex before his wife does, he immediately uses a powerful stimulator such as the Magic Wand massager or an air-pulse clitoral stimulator to “finish the job.” We highly recommend using a powerful stimulator to ensure she gets hers, too.
Clitoral suction toy during intercourse: With the right position, a clit suction toy can be used during penetrative sex. Dragonfly, Standing Missionary, and maybe Doggy Style are great sex positions for enjoying while stimulating your clitoris with an air-pulse clitoral stimulator.
Girth enhancer during sex: Have your husband slip a girth enhancer over his penis during intercourse and enjoy a thicker erection with lots of stimulation from its added texture.
Post-orgasm afterglow toy play: Let’s say both of you orgasm during sex, and he rolls off of you in delight. He can use a vibrator on a low setting to softly stimulate your clitoris and maybe squeeze out another orgasm.
Vibrator on her breasts: Nipple and breast stimulation release oxytocin (the love, connection, and orgasm hormone). Stimulate your wife’s breasts and nipples during sex in the Cowgirl position. Breast stimulation enhances a woman’s arousal significantly and increases her chances of reaching orgasm.
Quickie with a toy boost: When you don’t have the time or energy for a satisfying encounter with your spouse, but you still want to have one, a vibrator pressed against your clitoris during intercourse usually does the trick.
For Him
Vibrator on his nipples while she’s on top: Men can have sensitive nipples, too! Circle a small vibrator around your man’s nipple while you’re riding him, and see where it takes him.
Vibrator on him during sex: Don’t forget that during intercourse, your husband can enjoy stimulation from a vibrator, too! For example, during sex from behind, the wife can take a small vibrator and reach down and stimulate his testicles.
For Both
Vibrating penis ring during sex: The husband can wear a vibrating penis ring around the base of his penis during intercourse. This works very well when she’s on top or in a sex position where he fully penetrates her and grinds against her clitoris.
Double-vibration penis ring: Wear a vibrating penis ring that has two vibrators so it stimulates her clitoris and his testicles during intercourse.
Wearable couples’ vibrator during intercourse: Use a couples’ vibrator, such as a We-Vibe Chorus, to stimulate her G-spot and clitoris during sex.
Vibrating sex wedge: If you want to get really creative, use a sex cushion made to hold a vibrator against you during sex, such as the Liberator Axis. The Liberator Axis enables you to enjoy hands-free clitoral stimulation from a wand passager during from-behind sex.
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